How to Put in a Butt Plug: Easy Step-by-Step Guide

Butt plugs can feel good during sex or solo play, but you need the right method to stay safe and comfortable. Many people feel pain because they skip important prep steps.

This guide shows you how to insert and remove a butt plug safely with simple, clear instructions. First time or looking to improve? You'll learn what works.

What Is a Butt Plug?

A butt plug is a sex toy that goes in your butt and stays there during play. It's different from dildos—you don't move it in and out.

What it looks like:

• Narrow tip (easy to put in)
• Wider middle (creates fullness)
• Narrow neck (comfortable to hold)
• Wide base (stops it from going too far inside—very important!)

Why use one:

• Feels good—lots of nerves in that area
• Gets muscles ready for anal sex
• Makes other sex feel better
• Touches prostate (for people who have one)
• Feels like "double" when having vaginal sex

Butt plugs were first used in the 1800s by doctors, then became sex toys.

Picking Your First Plug

Size matters a lot. Start small—smaller than you think.

Size Chart for Beginners

Important: Check the widest part, not the tip—that's what your body has to stretch for.

Safe Materials

Doctors say use these safe materials:

Good choices:

• Silicone (soft, flexible, body-safe)
• Stainless steel (hard, smooth)
• Glass (smooth, firm)

Don't buy:

• Jelly, rubber, PVC (hold bacteria)
• Cheap plastic (might have bad chemicals)
• Anything that doesn't say what it's made from

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Shapes

Regular tapered: Best for beginners—smooth

Bumpy/beaded: For people with experience

Long neck: Comfortable to wear longer

Curved: Touches prostate better

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Getting Ready (Very Important)

This is why most people feel pain—they skip prep. Do these steps every time.

1. Go to the Bathroom

Poop 30-60 minutes before you play.

Why:

• Less worry about mess
• Prevents accidents
• Helps you relax
• Stops "need to poop" feeling during play

Some people also: Use a water bulb to rinse inside, but doing this too much can irritate you. Use plain warm water only if you do this.

2. Get Clean

Your body:

• Wash your butt with mild soap and warm water
• A warm shower helps muscles relax
• Dry gently

Your toy:

• Wash with soap and warm water before using
• Check for cracks or rough spots
• Make sure it's dry before adding lube

3. What You Need

Get everything ready first:

4. Pick Your Lube

Important: Your butt makes NO wetness. You need a lot of lube.

For silicone plugs: Only water-based lube
For metal/glass plugs: Any type works

How much? Way more than you think. Put it on the plug AND your butt (outside and inside).

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How to Put It In: Step-by-Step

Step 1: Relax First (10-15 minutes)

Never start with the plug. Your muscles need to relax.

Get calm:

• Take deep breaths
• Lock the door, turn off phone
• Focus on feeling good
• Remember you can stop anytime

Warm up with fingers:

1. Put lube on one finger
2. Rub around your butt hole in circles
3. Gently press finger tip against opening
4. When muscles relax, slowly slide finger tip in
5. Wait 30 seconds
6. Slide finger in all the way
7. Make small circles or "come here" motions
8. Add second finger when one feels easy

Ready when:

• Muscles feel relaxed, not tight
• One or two fingers go in easy
• No pain, just gentle stretch feeling

Step 2: Get in Position

Pick a comfy position:

Best for first time: Lie on your side with knees bent.

Step 3: Start Putting It In

1. Put lots of lube on the whole plug
2. Add more lube to your butt—outside and inside
3. Put plug tip right at the opening
4. Take 3 deep breaths and relax
5. Press gently—don't force it
6. Push slowly while breathing
7. When tip goes in, STOP for 30-60 seconds
8. Let your body adjust before going more

Key rule: If it hurts, stop right away. Never push through pain.

Step 4: Push It In All the Way

After tip is in comfortably:

1. Add more lube if needed
2. Push in slowly with gentle pressure
3. If muscles clench tight: Stop, breathe, wait
4. When relaxed: Keep pushing slowly
5. Do this stop-and-wait as many times as needed
6. Widest part will feel like the biggest stretch—normal
7. After widest part, your body pulls it into place
8. Done: Narrow neck sits inside, base stays outside

Time: 5-20 minutes for beginners is normal. Don't rush.

Step 5: Check How It Feels

After it's all the way in:

• Stay still 2-3 minutes
• Notice how it feels
• Fullness or mild stretch = normal
• Sharp pain or burning = take it out now

Normal feelings:

• Fullness or pressure
• "Need to poop" feeling (goes away in 1-2 minutes)
• Mild stretching

Not normal:

• Sharp, stabbing pain
• Burning feeling
• Bleeding (more than tiny spot)
• Can't relax or very uncomfortable

What to Do While Wearing It

How Long to Wear

Beginners: 5-10 minutes first time

Experienced: 30 minutes to 2-3 hours max

Never go over what the instructions say

Take it out if:

• Gets more uncomfortable
• Area goes numb
• "Poop feeling" doesn't stop
• Any sharp pain

Things to Try

By yourself:

• Touch yourself
• Use vibrator or dildo in vagina (feels tighter)
• Just wear it around (advanced)

With partner:

• Oral sex
• Vaginal sex (feels like "double")
• Foreplay
• Other play

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How to Take It Out Safely

Taking out needs MORE care because wide part comes out first.

Taking Out Steps

1. Get comfy in same position you used
2. Add fresh lube around base and opening
3. Breathe deep and relax muscles
4. Hold the base gently—don't yank
5. Push gently like pooping while pulling slowly
6. Push with butt AND pull with hand at same time
7. If muscles clench: Stop, wait, then try again
8. After wide part comes out, rest is easier
9. Pull rest slowly—don't rush even though it's easier

If stuck:

• Don't panic—makes muscles tighter
• Add lots more lube
• Lie down and relax 5 minutes
• Try gentle pushing + slow pulling
• Still stuck after 15 minutes? Get medical help

ER doctors help with this often—they won't judge you.

After Care and Cleaning

Taking Care of Your Body

Right after:

• Tiny blood spot is normal from rubbing
• Wash area with warm water and mild soap
• Put on unscented lotion if dry
• Don't put plug back in—rest several hours
• Take warm bath if sore

See doctor if:

• Bleeding doesn't stop (more than spot)
• Pain lasts over 30 minutes
• Looks torn (sharp pain + bleeding)
• Feel feverish or sick
• Can't get plug out

Cleaning Your Toy

Storage:

• Dry completely first
• Keep in fabric bag, not plastic
• Store silicone toys separate from each other
• Away from sun and heat

Common Problems

"It Hurts"

"Feels Like I Need to Poop"

Normal. The plug presses on inside walls.

What to do:

• Poop before playing
• Know it's pressure, not real need
• Feeling usually stops in 2-3 minutes
• If doesn't stop, plug might be too big

"Keeps Falling Out"

Why it happens:

• Neck too short for you
• Wearing too long (muscles tired)
• Too much lube
• Need bigger size (if too small)

"Worried About Mess"

Real info: Your lower butt is usually empty between poops. Poop stays higher up.

To feel better:

• Poop 30-60 minutes before
• Have towels ready
• Use dark towels
• Bodies are bodies—tiny bit of mess can happen

Safety Rules

Always follow these:

Must have a wide base—Never use anything without one. Your body can suck things inside.

Stop if pain—Stretch feeling = OK. Pain = stop now.

Don't share without a condom—Clean well or use a condom on shared toys.

Check the toy first—Cracks or rough spots hurt you.

Listen to your body—If feels wrong, it is wrong.

No numbing cream—You need to feel if something's wrong.

Time limits—Wearing too long damages tissue.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long between uses?

Wait 24 hours minimum for beginners so body heals. People with experience might do daily but watch for soreness. If uncomfortable, wait 48-72 hours.

Can I sleep with it in?

No. You can't feel problems while sleeping—it might damage tissue or causea  plug to move wrong. Max wear is 2-3 hours while awake.

Will it stretch me out forever?

No. Your butt muscle stretches and goes back to normal. Using right-sized toys doesn't cause permanent looseness. But forcing too-big toys or playing too much without rest can strain muscles.

Need different plugs for different things?

Not required, but some work better for specific things. Longer neck = comfy for wearing. Curved = better for the prostate. Vibrating = extra feeling. Tail = roleplay. Start with one good plug, try others later.

Can I use it during vaginal sex with a partner?

Yes, many like this. Makes the vagina feel fuller and tighter. A person wearing a plug should put it in before sex (not during, for first-timers). Talk during sex about comfort. Go slow.

What if I have hemorrhoids?

Ask the doctor first. Anal play can make hemorrhoids worse—more pain, bleeding, and slower healing. The doctor tells you when safe to play based on your situation.

Ready to Try Safely?

Putting in a butt plug safely means good prep, lots of lube, patience, and listening to your body. Most pain comes from rushing—not the toy itself.

Start small, go slow, and remember there's no rush. Focus on comfort and feeling good, not being "good at it."

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