Double-Sided Dildos: How They Work & How to Use Them

Curious about double sided dildos but want a clear, safety-first guide with real-world tips? You’re in the right place. Below, you’ll learn what a double sided dildo is, how it works, how to pick the right material, length, and flexibility, and how to use a double sided dildo solo or with a partner (including same-room and face-to-face ideas). We’ll cover lube rules, cleaning, comfort tweaks, troubleshooting, that mirror what people search in Google—so you leave informed, confident, and ready to play.

What is a double sided dildo?

A double sided dildo—also called a double ended dildo or simply a double dildo—is a penetrative toy with two usable ends on one long shaft. Some are straight and very flexible (bendable into a “C”), others are firmer for G-spot or P-spot pressure, and some are rigid (glass/steel) for precise control. 

In two-person play, both partners can be penetrated at once; solo, you can alternate ends or angle the shaft for targeted stimulation. Common configurations include vagina-to-vagina, anus-to-anus, vaginal-and-anal (one person), or pegging variants—the through-line is shared motion and mutual rhythm. Authoritative summaries of double dildos and double-penetration toys describe these exact use patterns and note that many models also come in vibrating versions.

Why people love double sided dildos

• Connection & coordination: Two people feel the same rhythm together—especially fun face-to-face. 
• Angle control: Bendable silicone models let you tune pressure toward the G-spot/P-spot; firmer models offer deliberate, targeted push.
• Versatility: Works with or without a harness, with vibration add-ons, or purely manual.

Materials, feel, and lube rules

• Platinum silicone (recommended): Non-porous, body-safe, easy to clean, available from soft and bendy to firm for pressure. Use water-based lube; silicone lube can degrade silicone toys.
• Glass / steel: Rigid, ultra-smooth, temperature-play friendly (warm under water or cool briefly). Non-porous and easy to sanitize. (Silicone or water-based lube both fine.) 
• Jelly/PVC/rubber: Often porous and may contain plasticizers; reputable medical resources advise condoms with porous toys and careful cleaning. For most users, non-porous options are safer long-term.
• Water-based = safe for all materials.
• Avoid silicone lube on silicone toys (possible surface damage).
• Add lots of lube for anal play; reapply generously.

How to choose a double sided dildo (quick sizing & features)

1. Length: For two-person play, look at 15–18 in (38–46 cm) or longer so both ends stay comfortably inserted with some “give” for motion. For solo mixed stimulation, shorter lengths can work. (Community and retail guides emphasize matching length and flexibility to use case.)
2. Girth: Choose a diameter that aligns with your current comfort level. Many pairs pick moderate girth to reduce strain while learning to move together.
3. Flexibility: Flexible silicone = forgiving, great for face-to-face grinding. Firm silicone / rigid glass = stronger G-spot/P-spot push and precision.
4. Texture & shape: Smooth for easy glide; subtle ridges/curves for more sensation.
5. Compatibility: If you plan harness play, look for sturdier bases or strapless “wearable” styles that seat comfortably.
6. Cleaning: Non-porous materials (silicone/glass/steel) are simpler to sanitize between partners.

How does a double sided dildo work?

Mechanically, both users (or both orifices) share one shaft. The back-and-forth motion becomes a shared rhythm—when one partner thrusts, the other feels the same movement instantly. That reciprocity can feel intensely intimate, especially in face-to-face positions where you can read each other’s cues. For solo, the dual ends let you switch sensations, experiment with angle changes, or use one end as a handle while the other provides pressure. Descriptions of double-ended toys in reliable summaries note these configurations and the option for vibration-enabled variants.

How to use a double sided dildo (step-by-step)

Before you start

• Talk & agree: Who’s leading? What pace, depth, and safeword (e.g., traffic-light)?
• Warm up: Hands, external massage, a smaller plug or finger for anal play.
• Lube station: Water-based lube within arm’s reach; reapply often. 
• Protect & clean: For porous toys or multi-partner sharing, consider condoms on each end; swap condoms when switching routes/persons. Non-porous toys still need thorough cleaning between partners. 

Two-person use (face-to-face “C” shape)

• Bend the shaft (if flexible) into a gentle “C.”
• Position together—often lying on sides or sitting face-to-face works best.
• Insert slowly with abundant lube; pause to breathe and settle.
• Find the rhythm—small, rolling motions beat hard thrusts; let the toy move your hips together.
• Check in every minute or two—pressure OK? Any pinching or slipping? Adjust bend, depth, or tempo.

Two-person use (back-to-back or spoon)

• Side-lying spoon: One behind the other; great when there’s a height difference.
• Back-to-back kneel: Both kneel or semi-kneel with the shaft between; slow rocking keeps the toy centered.

Solo use

• Angle for pressure: Use the firmer end internally and the bend to press toward the G-spot/P-spot.
• Handle + target: Hold one end as a handle; use the other for precise, shallow thrusts.
• Hands-free wedge: For rigid toys, wedge one end against pillows or a folded towel and rock gently.

Positions for comfort, connection, and control

1) Face-to-Face Sit: Sit on the bed facing each other; bend a flexible dildo into a “C.” Insert both ends with plenty of lube and rock together using small pelvic tilts. Eye contact and synchronized breathing make this deeply connecting. (Community tips highlight face-to-face as a favorite for shared rhythm.) 

2) Side-Lying Spoon: Both on your sides (one behind). Good for low effort and longer sessions. Adjust knee bend/hip tilt to change angles.

3) Butterfly on the Edge: One partner lies near the bed edge with knees bent outward; the other stands/kneels. The height difference can create an easy straight line for the shaft, reducing strain.

4) Kneeling “Tabletop”: Both kneel facing each other with the toy between. Use your hands on each other’s hips to keep motion shallow and smooth.

5) Solo Curve Press: For solo G- or P-spot exploration: bend a firm silicone or glass toy toward the front wall; use short, controlled pushes rather than large thrusts.

Safety & hygiene (the part that keeps play fun)

• Go slow at first: Coordinated thrusts with a double dildo can feel intense; small motions are friendlier to joints and tissues.
• Lube, then more lube: Reapply often, especially for anal play; friction is the enemy of comfort.
• Material matters: Favor non-porous toys for shared use; if you use porous materials, condoms help create a cleanable barrier.
• Cleaning 101: Warm water + mild unscented soap after every session. For non-porous toys (silicone/glass/steel), many can be boiled or sanitized per maker guidance; porous toys usually cannot be sterilized fully—clean promptly and store dry.
• Storage: Keep toys separated (especially silicone away from cheaper plastics) in breathable pouches.

Troubleshooting common issues

“We can’t keep it from slipping out.”
Use smaller motions and add more lube; try side-lying so gravity assists. Choose a slightly thicker diameter if slipping persists.

“Angles feel pokey, not pleasurable.”
Switch to a firmer double dildo for targeted pressure—or bend a flexible one more aggressively toward the front wall for G/P-spot contact.

“Lube dries too fast.”
Use a thicker water-based formula and reapply; for glass/steel, silicone lube is OK (but avoid silicone lube on silicone toys).

“One partner gets tired quickly.”
Let the other partner lead the motion; reduce range to gentle rocking. Side-lying positions conserve energy.

“Hygiene worries when switching routes/partners.”
Use condoms on each end and change them when switching; clean thoroughly afterward.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is a double sided dildo and how does it work?

It’s one shaft with two usable ends, allowing two-person penetration or alternating ends solo. Motion at one end transfers to the other—great for shared rhythm. Many guides and summaries describe these multi-configuration uses, with some models offering vibration.

How to use a double sided dildo with a partner (beginner-friendly)?

Start face-to-face or side-lying with a flexible silicone model. Use lots of lube, insert slowly, and keep motions small and coordinated. Pause to check comfort and re-lube often. Community tips consistently highlight eye contact and small movements for success.

Is silicone or glass better for a double dildo?

Silicone is forgiving and bendable; glass (or steel) is rigid and precise. Both are non-porous and clean well. Pick silicone for cuddly grinding; pick glass/steel for targeted pressure or temperature play.

What lube should I use?

Water-based lube works with everything. Avoid silicone lube on silicone toys; for glass/steel, either water-based or silicone is fine.

Are double ended dildos safe to share?

Yes—with non-porous materials, proper cleaning, and condoms if switching partners or routes (public-health sources advise condoms for porous toys).

Do double sided dildos work without a harness?

Absolutely. Many are designed for strapless face-to-face or spooning play. If you prefer stability, some styles can be harness-compatible or used with a strap for support.

What size double sided dildo should beginners get?

Moderate length and girth, flexible silicone, and a smooth surface. Too-long or too-thick can make coordination hard; aim for comfort first. Retail guides stress sizing to comfort and use case.

Quick comparison: flexible vs. firm vs. rigid

A simple 15–25 minute beginner flow

• Warm-up (3–5 min): External touch, breath, and teasing.
• Face-to-face insert (3–5 min): Flexible silicone, slow entry, small rocking.
• Side-lying spoon (4–6 min): Conserve energy, add lube, breathe together.
• Solo/outer stim add-on (3–5 min): One partner adds clitoral/perineal touch or a small external vibe.
• Aftercare (2–4 min): Water, cuddles, and toy cleaning.

Final take

A double sided dildo is all about shared rhythm, comfort, and communication. Pick body-safe, non-porous materials, match length and flexibility to your style, and keep water-based lube close. Start with small, coordinated motions, try face-to-face or spooning to reduce effort, and clean thoroughly between partners or routes. With the right size, bend, and pace, double dildo use can move from “intriguing” to “instant favorite.”