Apex Sex Position: How to Master This Trending Intimate Move

The apex sex position has taken intimacy conversations by storm, and for good reason. This elevated angle technique promises deeper connection, enhanced G-spot or A-spot stimulation, and a fresh twist on traditional penetrative positions. Whether you're curious about trying something new or looking to refine your bedroom repertoire, understanding the mechanics and benefits of the apex position can transform your intimate experiences.

In this guide, we'll walk you through exactly how to achieve the apex sex position safely and comfortably, explore variations that work for different body types, and share practical tips to make it feel amazing for both partners.

Who Should Try the Apex Sex Position?

The apex position isn't just for advanced practitioners it's accessible to anyone interested in experimenting with angles and elevation. Here's who might especially enjoy it:

• Couples seeking deeper penetration without requiring extreme flexibility
• People with vulvas looking for targeted internal stimulation (G-spot, A-spot, or cervical)
• Partners exploring new sensations through positional creativity
• Those who enjoy power dynamics where one partner has more control
• Individuals with pelvic tilt variations who find traditional missionary uncomfortable
• Adventurous beginners ready to move beyond basic positions with minimal risk

The beauty of the apex lies in its adaptability. You don't need Olympic-level stamina or contortionist skillsjust a willingness to communicate and adjust as you go.

How to Set Up the Apex Sex Position: Step-by-Step

Getting into the apex position requires some setup, but the payoff is worth it. Here's the foundational approach:

Gather your props

You'll need elevation for the receiving partner's hips. Options include:

• Firm pillows or cushions stacked 6–10 inches high
• A specialized sex wedge or positioning pillow
• Rolled towels secured with a yoga strap
• The edge of a sturdy bed or couch

Receiving partner lies back

The person receiving penetration lies on their back with hips elevated on the prop. Knees can bend and feet plant flat, or legs can extend upward or wrap around the partnerexperiment to find what feels best.

Penetrating partner positions between legs

The giving partner kneels or stands between the receiver's legs, depending on bed height. The elevated hips create a downward angle that changes the penetration trajectory.

Adjust the angle

This is where the magic happens. The receiver can tilt their pelvis slightly forward or backward to direct stimulation toward the front vaginal wall (G-spot/A-spot) or deeper cervical areas. Small shifts make big differences.

Establish rhythm and communication

Start slowly. The angle is more intense than missionary, so check in frequently. Use phrases like "a little higher," "slower," or "that's perfect" to guide each other.

Pro tip: Place a pillow under the receiving partner's lower back for additional lumbar support if they feel strain.

Apex Position vs. Other Elevated Techniques

Wondering how the apex stacks up against similar positions? Here's a quick comparison to help you decide what to try:

Apex vs. Traditional Missionary

Missionary offers face-to-face intimacy and easy kissing, but penetration angles are fairly standard. The apex takes missionary's closeness and adds elevation for sharper internal targetingideal when standard angles don't hit the right spots.

Apex vs. Legs-Over-Shoulders

Legs-over-shoulders creates deep penetration but requires hip flexibility and can feel intense or uncomfortable for some. The apex achieves similar depth with less joint stress, making it more sustainable for longer sessions.

Apex vs. Cowgirl/Reverse Cowgirl

Riding positions give the receiver full control over depth and speed. The apex flips that dynamicthe penetrating partner has more control, which some find exciting as a power exchange. If you enjoy sex toys for couples, the apex frees up hands for adding a remote controlled bullet vibrator to the mix.

Apex vs. Doggy Style

Doggy offers G-spot stimulation from a rear angle and primal energy. The apex provides frontal G-spot access with eye contact and intimacy. Alternate between them for variety.

Bottom line: The apex is your go-to when you want deep, targeted penetration without acrobatics, and you value face-to-face connection.

Anatomy & Why the Apex Works

Understanding the "why" behind the apex helps you fine-tune your technique. The elevated hips shift the vaginal canal's angle, bringing the front wall (where the G-spot sits about 2–3 inches inside) or the deeper A-spot into more direct contact with the penetrating object or body part.

G-spot stimulation: The urethral sponge tissue responds to firm, rhythmic pressure. The apex's downward angle naturally applies this pressure with each thrust.

A-spot (anterior fornix) stimulation: Located deeper than the G-spot, near the cervix, the A-spot can produce intense arousal and natural lubrication when stimulated. The apex's elevation can guide penetration past the G-spot toward this zone.

Clitoral anatomy: Don't forget that the clitoris has internal structures that wrap around the vaginal canal. Indirect stimulation from the apex can engage these deeper clitoral legs, creating layered sensations.

For folks with prostates, a modified apex (receiving partner with hips elevated on their stomach or side) can improve anal penetration angles for prostate contactthough that ventures into different territory covered by prostate massagers.

Variations to Try

Once you've mastered the basic apex, experiment with these tweaks:

Leg positions

• Feet flat, knees bent: Easier for beginners, offers hip stability.
• Legs extended and spread: Increases openness, deeper access.
• Legs wrapped around partner's waist: Adds intimacy, lets the receiver control pull-in depth.
• One leg up, one leg flat: Asymmetrical angles can target one side of the vaginal wall more precisely.

Pillow height adjustments

• Lower elevation (4–6 inches): Gentler angle, good for warm-up or sensitive days.
• Higher elevation (8–12 inches): More dramatic tilt, maximum G-spot/A-spot pressure.

Adding toys

The apex frees up hands beautifully. The penetrating partner can hold a clitoral vibrator against the receiver's clitoris, or the receiver can control a bullet vibrator themselves. This dual stimulation often leads to blended orgasms.

Incorporating restraints

If you're into light bondage, the apex works well with wrist cuffs attached to bedposts, since the receiver's arms are free and comfortable. Always establish safe words and consent beforehand.

Standing apex

If your bed is the right height, the penetrating partner can stand on the floor while the receiver lies at the edge with hips elevated. This variation offers leverage for deeper, more powerful thrusts.

Choosing the Right Support Gear

Not all pillows are created equal. Here's what to look for:

Firmness matters: Soft pillows compress under weight, losing the elevation advantage. Choose dense foam or purpose-built sex wedges that maintain their shape.

Waterproof covers: Things can get messy in the best way. Opt for cushions with removable, washable covers or place a towel over standard pillows.

Size and shape: Wedge-shaped pillows naturally support the lower back curve and hips. Rectangular stacks work but may shift; secure them with a fitted sheet or strap.

Non-slip bottoms: The last thing you need mid-session is your prop sliding across the bed. Rubberized bases or textured fabrics help keep everything in place.

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Lubrication Essentials for the Apex

The apex's intense angles mean friction can build quickly. Proper lubrication isn't optionalit's essential for comfort and safety.

Water-based lubricants

• Pros: Compatible with all toy materials (silicone, latex, TPE) and easy to clean. Safe for sensitive skin.
• Cons: Dries faster than silicone-based options, requiring reapplication during longer sessions.
• Best for: Beginners, toy use, and anyone prioritizing easy cleanup.

Silicone-based lubricants

• Pros: Long-lasting, silky texture, doesn't dry out. Ideal for extended play.
• Cons: Can degrade silicone toysuse with caution and test on a small area first. Requires soap and water to remove fully.
• Best for: Penetrative sex without silicone toys, shower/bath play (it's waterproof).

Hybrid lubricants

Some blends combine water and silicone bases for a middle ground. Check compatibility with any sex toys for women or condoms you're using.

Application tips:

• Apply lube generously to both partners and any toys involved.
• Reapply every 10–15 minutes or whenever you notice increased friction.
• Keep a bottle within arm's reachawkward fumbling kills momentum.

Safety, Comfort & Troubleshooting

Even the most exciting positions come with potential challenges. Here's how to handle common issues:

Lower back discomfort (receiving partner)

The elevated hips can strain the lumbar spine if held too long. Solution: Place a small pillow under the lower back, not just the hips. Take breaks to stretch. Limit sessions to 10–15 minutes initially.

Knee or hip pain (penetrating partner)

Kneeling for extended periods pressures joints. Solution: Use a cushioned mat under knees or switch to standing apex if bed height allows. Shift weight between legs periodically.

Too much depth/cervical contact

Some people find deep penetration uncomfortable or painful. Solution: Reduce pillow height, have the receiver keep knees more bent, or use a depth-limiting device like a bumper ring. Communication is key"that's too deep" should immediately cue an adjustment.

Numbness or "pinned" sensation

If the receiver feels pins-and-needles in legs or buttocks, circulation may be restricted. Solution: Adjust leg position, lower hips slightly, or take a break. Never ignore numbnessit's your body signaling a problem.

Difficulty maintaining position

If the setup keeps shifting, the props aren't firm enough. Solution: Invest in a wedge pillow designed for this purpose, or create a DIY version with dense foam wrapped in a non-slip fabric.

Emotional intensity

Face-to-face positions with deep penetration can feel emotionally vulnerable. Solution: Check in with each other verbally. It's okay to pause, make eye contact, or switch to a less intense position if someone feels overwhelmed.

Care & Maintenance After Play

Post-intimacy care keeps you comfortable and your gear in good shape.

For your body:

1. Urinate soon after penetrative sex to reduce UTI risk, especially important for vulva-owners.
2. Wash external genitals with warm water and mild, unscented soap. Avoid douchingvaginas are self-cleaning.
3. Monitor for irritation. If you notice redness, itching, or unusual discharge in the following days, consult a healthcare provider.

For your props:

1. Remove and wash pillow covers immediately if they've contacted bodily fluids. Use hot water and a mild detergent.
2. Air-dry positioning wedges completely before storing to prevent mold or mildew.
3. Inspect for wear. Foam can compress over time; replace props that no longer provide firm support.

For your toys:

If you incorporated sex toys into your apex session, clean them properly:

• Silicone toys: Wash with antibacterial soap and warm water, or boil for 3–5 minutes if they're non-motorized.
• ABS plastic or TPE: Wipe with a dedicated toy cleaner or mild soap solution. Pat dry with a lint-free cloth.
• Store separately in a cool, dry place. Avoid tangling cords or stacking incompatible materials.

Enhancing the Experience with Toys

The apex position's hands-free potential makes it ideal for incorporating pleasure products:

Clitoral stimulation

Hold a clitoral vibrator or wand vibrator against the receiver's clitoris during penetration. The combination of internal and external stimulation can trigger powerful blended orgasms.

Remote-controlled options

Hand your partner the remote to a remote controlled bullet vibrator for an added element of surprise and control play.

Cock rings for the penetrating partner

If the penetrating partner has a penis, a vibrating cock ring adds sensation for both peoplethe ring's vibrations stimulate the clitoris during each thrust. Check out cock rings designed for shared pleasure.

Anal play add-ons

For those interested in simultaneous stimulation, a small anal plug can intensify sensations due to the thin vaginal/rectal wall. Always use ample lube and start small. Anal vibrators designed for beginners are a safe entry point.

Temperature play

Warm or cool your toys before use (avoid extremes). Run a glass dildo under warm water or chill a metal plug in the fridge for 10 minutes. Temperature changes add unexpected dimensions to familiar sensations.

Communication Scripts for Trying the Apex

Introducing a new position can feel awkward. Here are some conversation starters:

• "I read about this position that's supposed to feel amazing for G-spot stimulation. Want to try it together?"
• "I'd love to experiment with some different angles. Can we set up some pillows and see how it feels?"
• "I trust you, and I'd like to try something a little more adventurous. Are you up for that?"

During the act, use clear feedback:

• "A little higher/lower with the pillow."
• "That angle is perfectstay right there."
• "Can we slow down? This is intense."
• "I need a break, but I'm enjoying it."

Aftercare conversation:

• "How did that feel for you? Was there anything you didn't like?"
• "I loved [specific moment]. Should we do that again?"
• "Next time, I'd like to try [variation]. What do you think?"

Open dialogue turns experimentation from stressful to exciting. Your partner isn't a mind readerverbal and non-verbal cues are your best tools.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is the apex sex position safe for beginners?

Yes, the apex is beginner-friendly as long as you start slow and communicate. It doesn't require extreme flexibility or strengthjust a willingness to adjust props and angles. If either partner has lower back issues, use lumbar support pillows and limit session length at first.

How high should the pillow or wedge be for the apex position?

Start with 6–8 inches of elevation under the hips. This provides a noticeable angle change without over-tilting the pelvis. Adjust up or down based on comfort and the sensations you're chasing. Taller or shorter bodies may need different heights to achieve the same internal angle.

Can you use the apex position during pregnancy?

In early pregnancy (first trimester), the apex is generally safe for most people. As pregnancy progresses, lying flat on the back can compress the vena cava and reduce blood flow. After 20 weeks, side-lying or upright positions are typically recommended. Always consult your healthcare provider for personalized advicewhat's comfortable and safe varies by individual and pregnancy stage.

What's the best way to add clitoral stimulation during the apex?

The receiving partner can use their own hand or a small bullet vibrator on their clitoris. Alternatively, the penetrating partner can hold a vibrator in place, though this requires good coordination. Wearable vibrators (like those with remote controls) free up both partners' hands entirely.

Does the apex position work for anal sex?

The apex conceptelevated hips to change penetration anglescan absolutely be adapted for anal play. The receiving partner would lie on their stomach or side with hips propped up, allowing downward entry that can target the prostate or create new sensations. Use significantly more lube for anal than vaginal play, go slower, and ensure enthusiastic consent and comfort at every step.

How do you prevent the pillows from sliding during the apex position?

Choose firm, dense pillows or a dedicated sex wedge with a non-slip base. If using regular pillows, stack them inside a pillowcase and tuck the case edges under the mattress or use a fitted sheet over the entire pillow stack. Some people place a yoga mat under the pillows for extra grip. If you're investing in gear, purpose-built positioning pillows solve this problem completely.

Conclusion

The apex sex position offers a straightforward way to explore deeper penetration, targeted G-spot or A-spot stimulation, and fresh intimate dynamicsall without requiring advanced flexibility or equipment. By adjusting hip elevation, leg positioning, and communication, you can tailor the experience to your unique anatomy and desires.

Start with firm support under the hips, use generous lubrication, and prioritize ongoing check-ins with your partner. Don't hesitate to incorporate rabbit vibrators or other accessories to enhance sensation. With patience and playfulness, the apex can become a go-to favorite in your intimate repertoire.Ready to elevate your pleasure? Explore Jissbon's curated collection and discover tools designed to make every positionincluding the apexunforgettable.