How to Squirt: A Simple Guide to Female Ejaculation

Squirting (also called female ejaculation) is one of the most talked-about topics in sexual pleasure. You've probably seen it in porn or heard friends whisper about it.

But what's real and what's just hype? This guide breaks down everything you need to know about squirting - what it is, how it works, and whether you can learn to do it.

No myths, no pressure, just honest information about this natural response to pleasure.

What Is Squirting?

The Simple Explanation

What it is:

Squirting is when fluid comes out of your vagina during arousal or orgasm. It can be a small amount or a bigger gush. Every person is different.

Where it comes from:

Scientists aren't 100% sure, but they think the fluid comes from:

• The Skene's glands (near your urethra)
• Possibly mixed with small amounts of urine
• Released during intense G-spot stimulation

What it looks like:

Forget what you see in porn. Real squirting can be:

• A small trickle
• A medium flow
• A big gush
• Anything in between

Learn about female anatomy and pleasure basics.

Squirting vs Orgasm

Important to know:

Squirting and orgasm are NOT the same thing.

Squirting	Orgasm
Release of fluid	Muscle contractions and intense pleasure
Can happen without orgasm	Can happen without squirting
Physical release	Peak of sexual pleasure
Not everyone experiences it	Most people can achieve it

What this means:

• You can squirt without having an orgasm
• You can have an orgasm without squirting
• You can do both at the same time
• All of these are normal

Can All Women Squirt?

The Honest Truth

Short answer: No, and that's completely okay.

The reality:

Some women:

• Squirt easily with G-spot stimulation
• Have always squirted naturally
• Can learn to squirt with practice

Other women:

• Never squirt at all
• Produce small amounts of fluid
• Can't squirt no matter what they try

Both are normal and healthy.

Understanding sexual response variety helps remove pressure.

Why You Shouldn't Stress About It

Important points:

Squirting doesn't mean:

• Better orgasms
• More pleasure
• Superior sex
• You're better in bed

Not squirting doesn't mean:

• Something's wrong with you
• You're broken
• You're not fully aroused
• Sex isn't as good

Bottom line: Squirting is just one type of sexual response. It's not the goal of sex.

How Squirting Works

The G-Spot Connection

What you need to know:

Most squirting happens from G-spot stimulation. The G-spot is a sensitive area inside your vagina.

Where to find it:

1. Insert finger(s) into vagina
2. Curl fingers up toward belly button
3. Feel for spongy, ridged area
4. About 2-3 inches inside
5. On the front wall (belly side)

What it feels like:

• Spongy texture
• Slightly ridged
• Swells when aroused
• More sensitive than surrounding tissue

When stimulated:

• Creates intense pressure feeling
• Might feel like you need to pee (you don't!)
• Can build to squirting
• Very pleasurable for many people

Learn more about G-spot anatomy from experts.

The "Need to Pee" Feeling

This is super important:

When G-spot is stimulated strongly, it often feels like you need to pee. This is NORMAL and usually means you might squirt.

Why it happens:

• Skene's glands fill with fluid
• They're near your urethra
• Brain interprets this as needing to pee
• But it's not pee - it's ejaculate fluid

What to do:

1. Empty bladder before sex/play
2. Know you won't actually pee
3. Relax and let the feeling happen
4. Don't clench or hold back
5. Push slightly into the feeling

The hardest part: Letting go instead of holding back.

How to Squirt: Step-by-Step

Solo Squirting (By Yourself)

Why start alone:

Learning on your own means:

• No pressure
• Take all the time you need
• Figure out what works
• Get comfortable with sensations
• Practice without feeling watched

Step 1: Get Prepared

Set the scene:

1. Pee first - Empty bladder completely
2. Put towels down - Lots of them
3. Get comfortable - Lie on your back, knees bent
4. Relax - No stress, no timeline
5. Have supplies ready - Lube, toys if using

Mental prep:

• Don't focus on squirting as the goal
• Enjoy the sensations
• Let go of expectations
• Be patient with yourself

Step 2: Get Aroused

This is crucial:

You need to be really turned on before trying G-spot stimulation.

How to get there:

1. Watch/read something that turns you on
2. Touch yourself all over
3. Stimulate clitoris first
4. Build arousal slowly
5. Don't rush to penetration

Signs you're ready:

• Vagina is wet
• Clitoris is swollen
• You feel very turned on
• Body feels warm
• You're breathing faster

Step 3: Find Your G-Spot

Using fingers:

1. Lube up your fingers
2. Insert 1-2 fingers, palm up
3. Curl fingers toward belly button
4. Feel for rough, spongy patch
5. Press and rub in "come here" motion

The technique:

• Press firmly (it needs pressure)
• Rub in circles or up and down
• Try different speeds
• Don't be gentle - it can take firm pressure
• Keep going even if it feels weird

Using a toy:

For G-spot stimulation, curved G-spot devices are specifically designed to reach and stimulate this area with the right angle and pressure that fingers alone may not achieve.

Step 4: Build the Pressure

What to do:

1. Keep stimulating G-spot
2. Don't stop when you feel "need to pee" sensation
3. Actually push slightly outward
4. Increase speed and pressure
5. Keep going even when it feels intense

Common mistakes:

• Stopping when it feels like you need to pee
• Not using enough pressure
• Giving up too soon
• Clenching instead of releasing
• Not being aroused enough first

Step 5: Let Go and Release

The hardest step:

When you feel the pressure build, you have to actively push and release.

How to do it:

1. Keep stimulating G-spot
2. When pressure peaks, PUSH slightly
3. Relax your pelvic floor
4. Don't clench or hold back
5. Let your body release

What might happen:

• Fluid gushes out
• Small trickle
• Feeling of release but no visible fluid
• Nothing at all

All of these are okay.

Partner Squirting (With Someone Else)

What's different:

Having a partner help can be easier (their arm doesn't get tired) but requires communication.

Key rules:

1. Talk first - Explain what you need
2. Guide them - Tell them when it feels right
3. No pressure - On either of you
4. Trust needed - You have to relax with them
5. Lots of lube - Always

Best partner techniques:

Manual stimulation:

1. Partner inserts fingers, palm up
2. Firm "come here" motion on G-spot
3. Can add clitoral stimulation with other hand
4. You tell them when to go harder/faster
5. Communicate constantly

What to say:

• "Right there"
• "Harder pressure"
• "Faster"
• "Don't stop"
• "Keep going exactly like that"

During penetrative sex:

Best positions for G-spot stimulation (covered in detail below):

• Doggy style
• You on top leaning back
• Legs on partner's shoulders
• Positions with pillow under hips

Add toys during sex:

Adding compact external vibration during penetration can help push you over the edge - the combination of internal and external stimulation often triggers squirting.

Best Positions for Squirting

Positions That Hit the G-Spot

Why positions matter:

Certain positions angle penetration to hit your G-spot directly. This increases chances of squirting.

Position 1: Doggy Style

Why it works:

Angle hits front vaginal wall perfectly.

How to do it:

1. Get on hands and knees
2. Partner enters from behind
3. You arch back down, butt up
4. Put pillow under hips for higher angle
5. Partner thrusts in downward motion

Make it better:

• Lower chest to bed
• Partner reaches around for clit stimulation
• Go slow and deep, not fast

Position 2: Modified Missionary

Why it works:

Tilts pelvis so G-spot gets direct contact.

How to do it:

1. Lie on back
2. Put thick pillow under hips
3. Partner enters
4. Wrap legs around their waist
5. Tilt pelvis up

Make it better:

• Partner grinds forward instead of in-out
• Add clit stimulation
• Higher pillow = better angle

Position 3: Cowgirl (Leaning Back)

Why it works:

You control angle and can hit your own G-spot.

How to do it:

1. Straddle partner facing them
2. Lean back (not forward)
3. Rock back and forth
4. Grind rather than bounce
5. Find angle that feels best

Make it better:

• Partner sits up to support your back
• Rest hands behind you for leverage
• Grind in circles

Position 4: Legs Up

Why it works:

Deep penetration hits G-spot intensely.

How to do it:

1. Lie on back
2. Put both legs on partner's shoulders
3. Partner enters and thrusts
4. Keep legs together for tightness

Warning: This is very deep. Tell partner if it hurts.

Position 5: Speed Bump

Why it works:

Pressure hits G-spot from perfect angle.

How to do it:

1. Lie flat on stomach
2. Put pillow under hips
3. Partner enters from behind
4. Partner grinds, doesn't thrust
5. Intense G-spot pressure

Make it better:

• Squeeze legs together
• Grind hips into pillow
• Partner goes slow and deep

Best Toys for Squirting

Tools That Help

Why toys help:

Toys can:

• Reach G-spot easier than fingers
• Keep consistent pressure and speed
• Let you focus on sensations
• Don't get tired like hands do

Understanding body-safe pleasure tools ensures comfortable exploration.

Top Toy Types

1. Curved G-Spot Vibrators

Why they're best:

Designed specifically to curve up and hit G-spot at perfect angle.

What to look for:

• Pronounced curve
• Firm material (not too squishy)
• Strong vibrations
• Good size (not too small)

How to use:

1. Insert with curve pointing up
2. Press firmly against front wall
3. Rock it in "come here" motion
4. Turn on vibration
5. Increase intensity

For targeted G-spot pressure, specialized curved options offer the firmness and angle needed - they're designed to maintain consistent pressure that fingers often can't sustain.

2. Rabbit Vibrators

Why they help:

Stimulate G-spot AND clitoris at same time. Double stimulation can trigger squirting easier.

What to look for:

• Internal part curves up
• External part reaches clit
• Dual motors
• Multiple settings

How to use:

1. Insert so both parts contact
2. Turn on both motors
3. Rock back and forth
4. Find rhythm that feels best

The dual-action approach combines internal G-spot pressure with external clitoral stimulation - many people find this combination is what finally triggers their first squirt.

3. Wand Vibrators (External)

Why they help:

Super strong vibrations can be pressed against G-spot from outside.

What to look for:

• Very powerful motor
• Large head
• Multiple intensity levels

How to use:

Method 1:

1. Press on pubic mound (above clit)
2. Pressure transfers to G-spot inside
3. Use high intensity

Method 2:

1. Use with G-spot toy inside
2. Wand on clit
3. Double stimulation

Strong wand-style vibration offers power that smaller toys can't match - the intense stimulation can push you past the edge when gentler toys haven't worked.

4. Firm Dildos (Non-Vibrating)

Why they help:

Sometimes vibration is distracting. Firm dildos give pure pressure.

What to look for:

• Curved shape
• Firm material (glass, steel, hard silicone)
• Good size for you
• Easy-to-grip handle

How to use:

1. Insert with curve up
2. Use "come here" motion
3. Apply firm, constant pressure
4. Fast or slow - your choice

5. Suction/Clitoral Stimulators

Why they help:

Intense clit orgasms sometimes trigger squirting.

What to look for:

• Strong suction
• Multiple patterns
• Comfortable seal

How to use:

Alone:

• Place over clit
• Build intensity slowly
• Orgasm might trigger squirt

With G-spot toy:

• Use both at once
• Ultimate combo

Tips for Success

Making It Easier

Physical tips:

1. Hydration matters

• Drink plenty of water
• Body needs fluid to squirt
• Stay hydrated all day

2. Empty bladder first

• Always pee before trying
• Removes worry about peeing
• Makes room for ejaculate

3. Use LOTS of lube

• More than you think you need
• Reapply often
• Makes everything feel better

4. Protect your bed

• Use towels
• Waterproof blanket
• Or don't worry about mess

Mental tips:

1. Relax completely

• Tension blocks squirting
• Deep breaths
• Let go of control

2. Don't focus on squirting

• Make pleasure the goal
• Squirting is bonus if it happens
• Enjoy the journey

3. Push don't hold

• When feeling builds, push slightly
• Don't clench up
• Hardest part but crucial

4. Be patient

• Might not happen first time
• Or second or third
• That's completely normal

What If It Doesn't Happen?

Remember:

Not squirting doesn't mean:

• You failed
• Something's wrong
• You're not doing it right
• You can't experience pleasure

Alternative outcomes:

Even if you don't squirt, G-spot stimulation often causes:

• Very intense orgasms
• New types of pleasure
• Deeper sensations
• Amazing feeling of fullness

All of these are valuable experiences.

For those exploring G-spot pleasure without squirting pressure, heating stimulation options add warmth that enhances sensation - making the experience incredible whether squirting happens or not.

Common Problems and Solutions

Troubleshooting

Problem 1: "It feels like I need to pee"

Solution:

• This is NORMAL
• It means you're close
• Pee before starting
• Then trust you won't pee
• Push into the feeling

Problem 2: "I keep clenching up"

Solution:

• Practice relaxing pelvic floor
• Deep breathing
• Let go of control
• Might need more practice

Problem 3: "I can't find my G-spot"

Solution:

• Must be aroused first (it swells)
• Use more pressure than you think
• Try when very turned on
• Use a curved toy
• It might be deeper than you think

Problem 4: "It feels good but nothing happens"

Solution:

• You might be a non-squirter (that's okay!)
• Try more pressure
• Longer stimulation time
• Different position/angle
• Add clit stimulation

Problem 5: "My arm gets too tired"

Solution:

• Use toys instead of fingers
• Switch to partner help
• Take breaks and come back
• Remote-controlled options let you adjust intensity without changing position or grip

Safety and Hygiene

Keeping Things Clean

Before:

1. Wash hands/toys
2. Trim fingernails
3. Use clean towels
4. Pee to empty bladder

During:

1. Use lube freely
2. Listen to your body
3. Stop if pain
4. Reapply lube as needed

After:

1. Pee again (prevents infections)
2. Wash toys immediately
3. Gentle cleanup
4. Hydrate

Learn about toy cleaning and care.

When to See a Doctor

See a doctor if:

• Pain during G-spot stimulation
• Bleeding after trying
• Burning sensation
• Signs of infection
• Something feels wrong

Don't worry about:

• Not being able to squirt
• Small amounts of fluid vs large
• Whether fluid is "right"
• Trying and not succeeding

Frequently Asked Questions

Is squirting just pee?

Research shows squirt fluid is mostly not urine, though it may contain small amounts. It comes from the Skene's glands and has different chemical makeup than pee. Either way, it's a natural bodily function - nothing to be embarrassed about.

How much fluid is normal?

Anywhere from a few drops to several ounces. Every person is different. Porn shows unrealistic amounts. Real squirting varies widely and all amounts are normal.

Can I learn to squirt if I never have?

Maybe. Some people can learn with practice, especially with G-spot stimulation and learning to "let go" instead of holding back. But some people simply don't squirt, and that's completely fine - it doesn't affect pleasure or orgasm quality.

Does squirting always happen with orgasm?

No. You can squirt without orgasm, orgasm without squirting, or both together. They're separate responses. Many people squirt before orgasm during intense G-spot stimulation.

What toys work best for beginners?

Start with a simple curved G-spot vibrator - they're designed specifically for this. Look for firm materials and a pronounced curve. Avoid toys that are too small or soft - you need good pressure.

Conclusion

Squirting is a natural response to G-spot stimulation that some people experience and others don't. To try it, focus on getting fully aroused, finding your G-spot, applying firm pressure, and learning to release instead of holding back.

Remember that squirting doesn't equal better sex or stronger orgasms - it's just one type of sexual response. Whether you squirt or not, exploring G-spot stimulation often leads to incredible pleasure and new discoveries about your body.

Ready to explore? Visit Jissbon to find tools designed for G-spot exploration that help you discover what your body can do.