How to Make Yourself Squirt with a Dildo: A Step-by-Step Guide

Learning how to make yourself squirt with a dildo is a journey that combines anatomy knowledge, relaxation, and the right technique. Squirtingalso called female ejaculationhappens when fluid is expelled from the urethra during intense sexual arousal, often through focused G-spot stimulation.

This guide walks you through everything you need to know: understanding what squirting is, choosing the right dildo, mastering G-spot techniques, and troubleshooting common challenges. Whether you're a beginner or have tried before without success, these evidence-based tips will help you explore this form of pleasure at your own pace.

Who This Guide Is For

This article is designed for:

• Solo explorers curious about squirting and wanting to experiment in a pressure-free environment
• People who've tried before but haven't been able to squirt and want fresh techniques
• Anyone interested in understanding their body's response to G-spot stimulation
• Individuals seeking the right toy recommendations and step-by-step guidance
• Those wanting to enhance their sexual repertoire with new sensations and experiences

Remember: not everyone can or will squirt, and that's completely normal. The goal is exploration and pleasure, not performance.

What Is Squirting? Understanding the Basics

The Science Behind Squirting

Squirting involves the release of fluid from the Skene's glands (sometimes called the female prostate) located near the G-spot. During intense arousal and stimulation, these glands can produce and expel fluid through the urethra.

Research shows the fluid composition varies but often contains small amounts of urine along with prostatic secretions. A 2015 study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that bladders were empty after squirting, confirming fluid release.

Is Squirting the Same as Orgasm?

Not necessarily. Some people squirt during orgasm, others squirt without orgasming, and many orgasm without squirting at all. They're separate physiological responses that can overlap but don't always occur together.

Can Everyone Squirt?

The honest answer: we don't know for certain. Some studies suggest most women have the anatomical capability, but factors like pelvic floor strength, arousal levels, psychological comfort, and technique all play roles. Not squirting doesn't mean something is wrong with your body.

For more on sexual anatomy and pleasure, see this comprehensive guide to the G-spot from Planned Parenthood.

Choosing the Right Dildo for Squirting

Not all dildos work equally well for G-spot stimulation and squirting. The right toy makes a significant difference.

Size and Shape

The best dildos for squirting have:

• Curved or angled shafts that target the G-spot (located 2–3 inches inside the vaginal canal on the front wall)
• Moderate length of 5–7 inches (you don't need deep penetration for G-spot access)
• Moderate girth of 1.25–1.5 inches diameter for comfortable, sustained pressure
• Bulbous or textured heads that provide focused G-spot contact

Material Considerations

Look for body-safe materials:

• Silicone – non-porous, firm enough for pressure, warms to body temperature
• Glass – rigid, smooth, allows precise G-spot targeting
• Stainless steel – heavy, provides intense pressure with minimal effort

Avoid porous materials like jelly or rubber that can harbor bacteria.

Vibration Options

While you can squirt with a non-vibrating dildo, many people find vibration helps:

• G-spot vibrators with curved designs combine shape and sensation
• Adjustable intensity lets you control stimulation levels
• Pulsation patterns can trigger different responses than steady vibration

Explore options designed for G-spot stimulation at G-spot vibrators.

Handle and Base Design

For solo use, consider:

• Flared bases or suction cups for hands-free positioning
• Ergonomic handles that give you leverage and control
• Angled grips that reduce wrist strain during extended sessions

G-Spot Anatomy: Where and How to Stimulate

Finding Your G-Spot

The G-spot is located on the front (anterior) wall of the vagina, typically 2–3 inches inside. When aroused, it swells slightly and feels different from surrounding tissueoften described as ridged or spongy.

To locate it:

1. Insert your finger palm-up into your vagina
2. Curl your finger in a "come here" motion toward your belly button
3. Feel for a slightly textured area that may feel more sensitive than surrounding tissue

Not everyone's G-spot is in exactly the same spot, so exploration is key.

The "Come Here" Motion

The most effective G-spot stimulation mimics a beckoning finger motion:

• Firm, rhythmic pressure rather than in-and-out thrusting
• Upward angle toward the front of your body
• Consistent tempo that builds arousal gradually

This motion puts direct pressure on the G-spot and Skene's glands.

Pressure Intensity

Squirting typically requires more pressure than other types of stimulation. Don't be afraid to use firm, sustained pressurethe G-spot responds well to it.

According to research on female sexual anatomy, the G-spot area is less sensitive to light touch and requires deeper pressure to activate.

Step-by-Step: How to Squirt with a Dildo

Follow these steps to maximize your chances of squirting while keeping the experience pleasurable and pressure-free.

Prepare Your Environment

• Lay down towels or use a waterproof blanket (squirting releases fluid, sometimes a lot)
• Get comfortable in a private space where you won't be interrupted
• Have water nearby to stay hydrated
• Set the mood with lighting, music, or whatever helps you relax

Build Arousal First

Don't go straight for G-spot stimulation. Start with:

• Clitoral stimulation using your fingers, a vibrator, or both
• External massage of your labia and vulva
• Fantasy or erotica to get your mind engaged
• Reaching medium-to-high arousal before internal stimulation

The G-spot responds much better when you're already turned on. Engorgement of the area makes it easier to locate and stimulate.

Insert the Dildo at the Right Angle

• Use plenty of water-based lube on the toy and your vaginal opening
• Insert slowly until you reach 2–3 inches depth
• Angle the toy upward toward your belly button
• Feel for the textured G-spot area with the dildo's curved head

If you're using a curved G-spot toy, the shape will naturally guide you to the right position.

Apply Firm, Rhythmic Pressure

Once positioned:

• Press firmly against the G-spot with the dildo head
• Use a "come here" rocking motion rather than thrusting in and out
• Maintain consistent rhythm (about 1–2 strokes per second to start)
• Increase pressure gradually as arousal builds

You might feel an intense sensation or even an urge to peethis is normal and often precedes squirting.

Push Through the Urge to Pee

This is where many people stop. The sensation of needing to urinate is actually a sign that fluid is building in the Skene's glands. To squirt:

• Don't tense up or pull away from the sensation
• Relax your pelvic floor instead of tightening it
• Bear down gently as if you're trying to push something out
• Keep stimulating through the discomfort

If you're worried about peeing, empty your bladder before you start.

Add Clitoral Stimulation

Combining G-spot and clitoral stimulation often triggers squirting:

• Use your free hand to rub your clitoris
• Add a vibrator for dual stimulation
• Find the intensity combination that works for your body

For many, this combination creates the intense arousal needed for squirting.

Let Go and Don't Force It

Squirting happens when you're relaxed and aroused, not when you're straining. If it doesn't happen:

• Enjoy the sensations you are experiencing
• Try again another time without pressure
• Focus on pleasure rather than outcome

Some sessions will result in squirting, others won'tboth are successful if you enjoyed yourself.

How to Squirt with a Vibrator: Key Differences

Using a vibrator instead of a non-vibrating dildo adds another layer of stimulation.

Vibration Settings for Squirting

• Start with lower intensity to build arousal without numbing
• Experiment with patternssome people respond better to pulsation than steady vibration
• Increase intensity as you get closer to squirting
• Combine vibration with pressure using the same "come here" motion

Best Vibrator Types for Squirting

Many users find rabbit vibrators particularly effective because they stimulate both the G-spot and clitoris simultaneously.

Using Multiple Toys

Consider combining:

• A curved dildo for G-spot pressure + a bullet vibrator on your clitoris
• A G-spot vibrator inside + manual clitoral stimulation
• A wand vibrator externally + fingers or a dildo internally

Lube and Preparation for Squirting

Choosing the Right Lubricant

Water-based lube is your best choice:

• Compatible with all toy materials (silicone, glass, metal)
• Easy to clean from your body and toys
• Won't irritate sensitive vaginal tissue
• Reapply as needed since it can dry out during extended sessions

Avoid silicone lube with silicone toysit can degrade the material.

How Much Lube to Use

More than you think. Generous lubrication:

• Reduces friction and discomfort during firm G-spot pressure
• Allows smoother movement for the "come here" motion
• Prevents micro-tears in vaginal tissue

Apply lube to both the toy and your vaginal opening, and reapply whenever you feel any dryness.

Pre-Session Bladder Care

Empty your bladder before attempting to squirt. This:

• Reduces anxiety about the urge-to-pee sensation
• Gives Skene's glands room to fill and expel fluid
• Helps you distinguish between the urge to urinate and the sensation preceding squirting

For more on sexual health and comfort, see the Cleveland Clinic's guide to pelvic health.

Common Challenges and Troubleshooting

I Feel Like I Need to Pee and Stop"

This is the most common barrier. The feeling is caused by pressure on the bladder and Skene's glands, not actual urine buildup. Push through by:

• Relaxing your pelvic floor consciously
• Bearing down gently instead of holding back
• Trusting your bodyremember you emptied your bladder beforehand

I Can't Find My G-Spot"

Try these tips:

• Increase arousal firstthe G-spot swells when aroused, making it easier to locate
• Use more pressurelight touch won't reveal the G-spot
• Try different angleseveryone's anatomy varies slightly
• Consider a G-spot toy with a pronounced curve for guidance

It Feels Uncomfortable or Painful"

G-spot stimulation shouldn't hurt. If it does:

• Use more lube to reduce friction
• Decrease pressure intensity and build up gradually
• Check your toy's materialhard toys may be too intense for beginners
• Stop if sharp pain occurs and consult a healthcare provider if it persists

I Get Close but Nothing Happens"

This suggests you're on the right track. Try:

• Adding clitoral stimulation to push arousal higher
• Increasing pressure on the G-spot
• Relaxing completely and bearing down when you feel the peak sensation
• Trying again when you're even more aroused

For additional techniques and toy options, explore sex toys for women designed for G-spot exploration.

Aftercare and Toy Maintenance

Post-Squirting Care

After a squirting session:

• Urinate to flush your urethra and prevent UTIs
• Wash your vulva with warm water and mild soap
• Hydrate with water or electrolyte drinks
• Rest if you feel fatiguedintense arousal and orgasm can be physically tiring

Cleaning Your Dildo

Proper cleaning prevents infections:

1. Wash immediately after use with warm water and mild, fragrance-free soap
2. For silicone toys, you can also boil for 3–5 minutes or use a toy cleaner
3. Dry thoroughly with a clean towel
4. Store in a breathable pouch away from other silicone toys

When to Replace Your Toy

Replace your dildo if you notice:

• Cracks, tears, or rough spots that could harbor bacteria
• Discoloration or odor that doesn't wash away
• Material degradation (sticky or tacky texture on silicone)

For detailed toy care guidance, see the NHS guide to cleaning sex toys.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can everyone learn to squirt?

Not everyone will be able to squirt, and that's completely normal. While most people with vaginas have the anatomical structures involved (G-spot and Skene's glands), factors like pelvic floor strength, arousal capacity, and individual anatomy vary. Focus on pleasure rather than achieving a specific outcome.

How much fluid is released when squirting?

The amount varies widely from a tablespoon to a cup or more. Some people release a small amount that goes unnoticed, while others experience a more dramatic release. Both are normal.

Does squirting feel like an orgasm?

For some people, squirting and orgasm happen simultaneously and feel intensely pleasurable. For others, squirting occurs without orgasm and feels more like a release of pressure. The sensations are highly individual.

Is the fluid from squirting urine?

Research shows squirting fluid contains components of urine mixed with secretions from the Skene's glands. The exact composition varies, but it's generally diluted and different from regular urine. Emptying your bladder beforehand minimizes urine content.

How long does it take to learn to squirt?

Some people squirt on their first attempt, while others practice for weeks or months. There's no standard timeline. Consistent practice, arousal, relaxation, and the right technique all increase your chances, but patience is key.

Can squirting happen from positions other than lying down?

Yes. While lying on your back is often easiest for G-spot access, squirting can happen in other positions like doggy style, cowgirl, or standing with proper angle and pressure. Experiment to find what works for your body.

Conclusion

Learning how to make yourself squirt with a dildo takes patience, the right tools, and a focus on pleasure over performance. By understanding G-spot anatomy, using proper technique, and creating a relaxed environment, you increase your chances of experiencing this unique form of release.

Remember: squirting is just one of many ways to experience sexual pleasure, and not achieving it doesn't diminish your sexual experiences. Explore what feels good for your body at Jissbon.