How to Make Yourself Squirt: Step-by-Step Solo Guide

If you’re searching how to make yourself squirt, you want a calm, practical roadmap—not myths. The short version: squirting is a normal response for some people with vulvas, and it’s most likely when you combine steady clitoral stimulation with targeted pressure on the front (anterior) vaginal wall. Ultrasound and biochemical studies suggest the visible fluid comes mostly from the bladder, with possible small contributions from the paraurethral (Skene’s) glands—so that “I need to pee” feeling right before release is common and normal.

Below is a solo‑first guide that teaches you: the body mechanics of squirting, step‑by‑step fingering technique, how to make yourself squirt with a vibrator or with a dildo, and (if you later want to involve a partner) how to make yourself squirt during sex using positions that keep clitoral contact steady.

Squirting 101 (science in plain language)

• Where does the fluid come from? In an oft‑cited ultrasound study, participants’ bladders were empty at baseline, refilled during arousal, then emptied right after squirting; fluid testing showed urinary markers, consistent with a bladder source. Some samples also contain PSA (prostate‑specific antigen), which points to small contributions from the paraurethral/Skene’s glands—sometimes called the “female prostate.” Both findings can be true at once.
• What triggers it? Consistent clitoral stimulation plus anterior wall pressure (a “come‑hither” curl of the fingers) while you stay relaxed through the urge. Sex‑ed orgs note many people with vulvas need clitoral stimulation for reliable orgasm; penetration alone is less likely to get you there. Keep that clitoral contact constant.
• Is squirting necessary? No. Some never squirt, some do occasionally, some often. Pleasure and comfort—not volume—are the goal.

Prep that sets you up for success

• Empty your bladder first; keep water nearby to rehydrate after. The bladder’s involvement makes this both practical and comforting.
• Gather supplies: lube (water‑ or silicone‑based), a towel/waterproof throw, trimmed nails (or a nitrile glove), and a small vibe if you want.
• Environment: a warm, private space where you won’t rush.
• Mindset: treat squirting as a possibility, not a test. Pressure to “perform” is the #1 momentum killer.
  

Anatomy map (so your hands know where to go)

• Clitoris: Not just the visible tip—there’s a larger internal network. Most people with vulvas orgasm more reliably from clitoral stimulation, so keep it going while you explore inside.
• Front (anterior) vaginal wall: Slide 2–3 inches in and curl your fingertips toward your belly button. You’ll often feel a slightly spongier or ridged texture—the target zone for pressure. The classic motion is a gentle come‑hither curl.
• Paraurethral (Skene’s) glands: Small glands near the urethra that can secrete PSA‑containing fluid; they’re part of the sensations some people feel when the front wall is stimulated.

Step‑by‑step: How to make yourself squirt with your fingers

This is the most controllable way to learn because you can feel the angle and pressure in real time.

1) Warm up externally (2–5 minutes)

Use your fingers or a vibe around the clitoral hood and mons (not the tip yet). Keep pressure at 3–4/10—easy, rhythmic strokes that relax your body and build arousal.

2) Lube and breathe (30–60 seconds)

Apply a generous amount of lube to your fingers and the entrance; take slow exhales to relax your pelvic floor.

3) One finger in, palm up (30–60 seconds)

Slip a single finger inside and trace the front wall in slow passes while your other hand keeps clitoral contact steady.

4) Find the angle (30–60 seconds)

Curl your fingertip toward your belly button in a come‑hither motion. You’re pressing into a broad zone, not jabbing a point. When you’re near the sweet spot, the tissue can feel fuller as arousal builds.

5) Lock a rhythm (1–3 minutes)

Use small, steady presses (about one per second) or tiny circles on the front wall. Keep the clitoral stimulation constant with your other hand (or a parked vibe). The “constant + small changes” combo is what carries many people over the edge.

6) Add a second finger (optional)

If it feels good and easy, add two fingers, still palm up, keeping motions small and the angle forward. More lube is better than less.

7) Ride the urge (the crucial moment)

Common cues: warmth, swelling, pelvic pulses, and that “I need to pee” feeling. That urge is a hallmark of impending release. Breathe and bear down gently (like starting to pee) to let the fluid out rather than clamping.

8) Ease through the wave & aftercare

As fluid releases, keep your motion steady or soften slightly. Then pause, sip water, and cuddle yourself. If it didn’t happen, but felt great—win. Try again another day.

Pocket map to memorize: Warm external → Lube → One finger palm‑up → Come‑hither on front wall → Clitoral contact stays constant → Breathe + gentle bear‑down → Soften after.

How to make yourself squirt with a vibrator

Vibes make “constant contact” easier—especially if your hands get tired.

Choose your tool

• Curved G‑spot vibrator: mimics the come‑hither angle with less effort.
• Dual‑stimulation (G‑spot + clitoral) vibe: keeps clitoral contact steady while the internal arm presses the front wall.

Technique (3‑step flow)

1. Park it externally first. Hold low intensity on the hood edges to build arousal.
2. Angle the curve forward. Insert the internal arm a little, then rock the handle so the tip presses the front wall. Think rocking, not thrusting.
3. Keep clitoral contact constant. Whether built‑in or with a separate bullet, let the clitoral stimulation be the metronome while you make tiny changes to pressure/angle internally.

How to make yourself squirt with a dildo

A dildo (especially curved) delivers firm, predictable pressure.

• Warm up as usual (external first), then add lube to you and the toy.
• Angle matters more than depth. Aim the curve toward your belly button; use short, rocking strokes that press the front wall instead of long thrusts. 
• Pair with clitoral stimulation. Park a small vibe at the hood edge or use your other hand; keep it constant while you rock the dildo.

If/when you want a partner: how to make yourself squirt during sex

If you later want to involve a partner, choose positions that keep clitoral contact constant and press the front wall at the right angle. That’s why the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)—a missionary variation that emphasizes rocking instead of thrusting—often improves orgasm likelihood; CAT was evaluated in controlled studies as a way to provide consistent clitoral stimulation during intercourse.

Three beginner‑friendly options (partnered)

• CAT Missionary: Penetrating partner slides slightly upward and rocks pelvis‑to‑pelvis so the pubic bone presses the clitoris while the shaft brushes the front wall. Keep strokes shallow and rhythmic.
• Cowgirl Tilt: You on top, lean forward 10–30°; aim the shaft toward the front wall while a hand or toy keeps clitoral contact steady. Health guides suggest rocking forward/back (not bouncing) to stimulate the G‑spot region.
• Edge‑of‑Bed: Lie near the bed edge; partner stands and angles upward slightly while you hold a vibe externally. This keeps angles consistent and hands free.

Remember the principle: constant clitoral contact + forward‑aimed pressure + relaxed breathing.

A 15‑minute solo practice plan

1. 2 min — Warm external: Hood edges + mons (3–4/10 pressure).
2. 2 min — Map: One finger inside, palm up; trace the front wall while keeping external contact steady.
3. 4 min — Come‑hither reps: Two sets of 45 seconds on / 15 seconds lighter, add a second finger if easy.
4. 3 min — Vibrator or dildo assist: Rock a curved tip toward the front wall while the clitoral contact stays constant.
5. 4 min — Edge waves: 60 seconds steady → 10–15 seconds lighter → repeat; if the urge rises, bear down gently and let it release.

Troubleshooting (fast fixes that actually work)

• “I keep tensing when the urge hits.”
  Empty your bladder first. When the urge rises, exhale and bear down lightly; think “let go,” not “hold it.”
• “The tip is too sensitive.”
  Stay indirect longer (hood edges, mons). Internally, use broad presses instead of pokes; lower intensity on vibes.
• “Hands get tired.”
  Switch to a curved G‑spot vibrator and let it hold the angle while your other hand maintains clitoral contact.
• “Penetration doesn’t do it.”
  Most people need ongoing clitoral stimulation for orgasms during sex; add CAT rocking or return to manual/vibe focus.
• “It feels scratchy.”
  More lube, trimmed nails, and use the pad of your finger. Consider a glove for smoother glide.
• “No squirt yet.”
  Totally fine. Track what felt best, repeat that sequence next time, and treat squirting as optional. Enjoy the sensations you are getting.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is squirting pee?

Research using ultrasound and fluid analysis indicates the squirted fluid is predominantly urine from the bladder, sometimes with small amounts of PSA‑positive secretions from Skene’s glands. Both are normal.

How do I make myself squirt with a vibrator if I’m sensitive?

Start low and indirect on the hood edges, then angle a curved internal tip toward the front wall and rock gently. Keep clitoral contact steady throughout.

What’s the best angle with fingers or a dildo?

Aim toward your belly button (front wall) and use small come‑hither presses instead of deep thrusting.

Can I learn how to make myself squirt during sex with a partner?

Yes. Try CAT (missionary rock), Cowgirl Tilt, or Edge‑of‑Bed—all keep clitoral contact consistent while pressing the front wall.

Does everyone with a vulva squirt?

No. Squirting varies by person and context. Pleasure and comfort matter more than fluid volume.

How long does it take to learn?

There’s no set timeline. Many people benefit from a few short sessions to map angles and rhythms; arousal + consistency beat intensity every time.

Is it safe?

Yes—if you use lube, go slowly, and stop if something hurts. Layer towels for comfort and hydrate afterward. (If you ever notice pain or bleeding, pause and check in with a clinician.)

Gentle wrap‑up

Learning how to make yourself squirt isn’t a magic trick; it’s technique + pacing + permission. Keep clitoral stimulation constant, aim forward on the front wall with small come‑hither presses, breathe through the urge, and bear down gently when it peaks. If hands get tired, a curved G‑spot vibrator can hold the angle while you focus on rhythm and relaxation. Whether you squirt today, next month, or never, you’re doing it right if it feels good and pressure‑free.