Banana Split Sex Position: How It Works & Pleasure Tips

Curious about the banana split sex position but not sure how to set it up without cramps or chaos? You’re in the right place. The banana split position is a playful mix of openness, angle control, and deep contact. Think of it as a friendly cousin to missionary and the splits: one partner lies back while the other partner gently guides one (or both) legs outward to create that signature “banana split” look. The magic isn’t just the stretch—it’s the angle. That wider hip opening changes how bodies line up, often improving clitoral contact, G-spot reach, and pressure along the underside of the penis or dildo.

This guide breaks down the position step by step, covers easy modifications for flexibility, and shares comfort and safety tips so you can feel adventurous without feeling like you joined a gymnastics team. We’ll also give you pleasure upgrades (lube, rhythm, a ring for shared vibration), common mistakes to avoid, and small variations that keep the banana split fresh for both partners. Whether you’re flexible, tight from sitting all day, or somewhere in the middle, you’ll find a version that fits your bodies—and your bedroom.

What is the banana split sex position (and why it feels good)

At its core, banana split sex is a face-to-face penetrative position with the receiver on their back. One or both legs are guided outward (like the beginning of a split) while the giver kneels or half-kneels between the receiver’s hips. This wider hip angle:

• Shifts the penetration path slightly upward, which can bring more contact to the front vaginal wall (G-spot territory) or deliver heavier strokes against the underside of a penis or strap-on.
• Opens pelvic access for hands or toys (great for clitoral play, perineum pressure, or a compact vibe).
• Improves visibility and intimacy—you can keep eye contact, talk, and read each other’s breathing.

Step-by-step setup (beginner friendly)

1) Warm-up & lube: Start with a few minutes of full-body touch. Add water-based lube generously—friction is the enemy of relaxed hips.

2) Receiver’s base: The receiver lies on their back with knees bent and feet planted near the butt. Take a breath, exhale, and let the knees drift apart.

3) Giver’s entry: The giver kneels between the legs, guiding one thigh outward while keeping support under the calf or behind the knee. Go slow and check in.

4) Angle the hips: Slide a small pillow under the receiver’s hips if you’d like steeper angles. This often enhances G-spot contact and brings pubic bones closer for clitoral stimulation.

5) Find your rhythm: Start with short, shallow strokes so muscles stay relaxed. Use your free hand(s) for clitoral touch, perineum pressure, or gentle thigh holds.

6) Optional upgrades: If you enjoy external vibration, a small bullet or vibrating ring can add a steady pulse where bodies meet. Keep settings low at first so you can feel if the angle needs adjusting.

Variations for flexibility, height, and bodies

• The Mini Split: Perfect for tight hips or first attempts. Knees open only a little wider than shoulders. Great for longer sessions without fatigue.
• The Classic Split: Knees wider, feet closer to the edges of the bed. Add a thin pillow under the hips for a lifted pelvis and clearer front-wall contact.
• The Side-Split Hybrid: One leg extends outward while the other stays bent. This is stellar for asymmetrical hip mobility or if one side is stiffer. It also changes the stroke arc, adding novelty.
• The Deep V (advanced): Both legs open wide with good support under calves/ankles. Use lots of lube and slow tempo; the giver should stabilize the receiver’s thighs to avoid over-stretching.
• Plus-size & tall partners: Scoot closer to the bed’s edge so the giver can plant their knees lower, keeping neutral back posture. Use more pillows to raise the receiver’s pelvis so angles meet comfortably.

Anatomy & angles: making the banana split position work for you

• For clitoral focus: Bring pubic bones together. Short, shallow strokes keep the mons/clitoral hood in rhythmic contact. The giver can also press the pubic mound in small circles between thrusts.
• For G-spot access: Elevate hips 2–5 cm with a pillow and tilt toward the belly button once inside. Use a rock-and-hold motion instead of rapid thrusting.
• For the giver’s pleasure: The outward thighs create a natural “channel” that guides your angle; adding tiny hip circles can sweep different nerve-dense areas of the receiver without more force.
• For strap-on users: Here the “split” stabilizes the receiver so the harness can stay at a consistent angle. Keep strokes compact; this improves control and comfort for both.
  

Remember: angle beats force. Small adjustments (a few degrees of pelvic tilt, a hand under the thigh, a half-centimeter change in depth) make a bigger difference than speeding up.

Comfort & safety: stretching, consent, and pacing

• Pre-stretch (30–60 seconds): knee-to-chest, happy baby, gentle hip circles.
• Support the legs: the giver should hold behind the knees or under calves, not push on the joints.
• Use slow ramps: widen a bit, try a few strokes, relax, then widen again if it feels good.
• Safe words/signals: a tap or “yellow” means “adjust/slow,” “red” means stop.
• If anything stings or pinches, return to the mini split or bend the knees more. Pain is a signal to change the angle, not to “push through.”

Pleasure upgrades: toys, tempo, and teasing

Small add-ons can turn the banana split position into your go-to:

• Vibe layering: A tiny bullet held just above the clitoral hood during shallow strokes creates steady external stimulation without losing angle.
• Edging: Build for 90 seconds, pause 20 seconds, repeat. This heightens sensation without needing wider splits or more force.
• Tease sets: three slow strokes, one grind (bones together), and a still hold. That “stillness” moment can amplify the next wave.

For different goals: deeper, gentler, or more connected

• Deeper penetration: Lift hips slightly and draw knees toward armpits only as comfort allows. Use slow, anchoring strokes.
• Gentler/romantic vibe: Stay in the mini split, keep strokes short, add soft dirty talk and eye contact. The openness of the position makes conversation natural.
• More connected clitoral focus: Place a soft pillow under the receiver’s lower back. Keep strokes small and rock pelvis to pelvis so the clitoral area gets regular pressure.
• For recovery days/sore hips: Use the side-split hybrid or place a rolled towel under each thigh for passive support. Keep sessions shorter with more cuddly still-holds.

Real-world flow (one-page routine you can copy)

1. Warm-up: Kisses, chest/neck touch, 1 minute of hip circles.
2. Mini split: Feet planted, knees just wider than shoulders; add lube.
3. Entry + shallow rhythm: Three slow strokes, one grind, still for a breath—repeat.
4. Angle check: Add a thin pillow under hips; shorten the stroke; note the new contact.
   
5. Upgrade: If desired, add a low-setting vibe or ring for steady external buzz.
6. Edge: Pause near climax for 15–30 seconds, then resume.
7. Finish & aftercare: Water, cuddle, and a quick “one win/one tweak” debrief.

Conclusion 

The banana split position sex move isn’t about showing off flexibility—it’s about customizable angles and easy external access that make face-to-face intimacy feel fresh again. Start with the mini split, keep strokes short and pelvises close, and let lube do the heavy lifting. Add a pillow for hip lift if you want G-spot contact, and keep one hand free for clitoral or perineum touch. If you enjoy a steady pulse but don’t want to juggle a toy, a vibrating ring can quietly handle the rhythm while you two focus on connection.

Most importantly, treat the banana split sex position as a conversation. Check in with short cues (“slower,” “there,” “hold”), adjust width in tiny steps, and prioritize comfort over big splits. With that approach, you’ll get the delicious mix of depth, closeness, and control the position promises—without feeling like you signed up for a stretch class. When your bodies and breath line up, even the simplest banana split position becomes a shared “wow” you’ll want to revisit.

Frequently Asked Questions 

What does 69 or 96 mean in sex?

“69” refers to mutual oral sex positions where partners’ heads align with each other’s pelvises. “96” is a playful inverse slang; people use it loosely online. Neither has to do with the banana split position, but both are about mutual stimulation.

Which position in sex is most pleasurable?

There’s no universal “best.” Many enjoy positions that keep clitoral contact steady (modified missionary, cowgirl, spooning) and allow easy angle tweaks. The banana split position works for lots of couples because it offers angle control and external access at the same time.

What is the C sex position?

Different blogs use “C” to describe positions with curved bodies or “curling” together (often spooning or seated cuddles). The common theme is comfort and closeness, not extreme flexibility.

What is the romantic position for sex?

Positions that invite eye contact and slow rhythm—missionary with hip lift, spooning, seated face-to-face, or a gentle banana split sex variation—tend to feel romantic because they make communication and touch easy.

Is the banana split position safe for people with tight hips?

Yes, if you start with a mini split, use lots of lube, and widen slowly. Support under knees/calves helps. If something pinches, narrow the angle and shorten the stroke.

How can we make the banana split position more intense without going wider?

Lift the hips slightly, keep strokes shorter, grind pelvis to pelvis, and consider a low-setting ring or a fingertip on the clitoral hood for steady external stimulation.

Any tips for longer sessions?

Use pillows for joint support, keep the giver’s knees grounded for leverage, and reapply lube whenever you feel drag. Short “still holds” reset stamina without losing arousal.